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Four months into aveilus, life has fallen into a pattern
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Germs are the whole problem. Germs threaten Mommy’s life
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It’s a small thing, yet it fills me with nachas that I never dreamed I would have
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As I signed form after form with that name Sara, I pondered this strange predicament that seemed to bring me full circle
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Everyone here is a living, breathing proof of the eternal miracle of Chanukah
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Did they ever imagine that he’d be able to repeat a prayer in Aramaic, in front of 200 people, in memory of his father?
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My mazel, however, has never yet helped me fill my bank account, my sheitel boxes, or my jewelry rolls
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She glances down at them and knows she can’t use them for the yearbook. They’re horrible, hideous even. How can she possibly be so ugly?
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Bench or seven flights of stairs? I could wait for another bus. Or I could start walking home. Or… I could just sit here?
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It’s important for her chinuch, I told myself, and I believed it. I still do