Mishpacha’s theme issue “Checks and Balances” held special resonance for me. One of my first forays into writing came about four years ago with a phone call from my rav. Rabbi Moshe Hauer, who served on the editorial board of the journal Klal Perspectives, asked me to write an article from the perspective of a former kollel wife for their Winter 2015 issue, “The Ben Torah Baal HaBayis.” I eagerly agreed, having much to say as someone who supported her husband through five years of kollel and then four years of medical school.