“She says I’m everything she’s looking for… but she just can’t marry me”

“Thank you so much for making this time for me, I really appreciate it. I’ve heard wonderful things about you and I’m really hoping you can help me.”

IT

was 30 seconds into my first call with Shaul Kass and I was already impressed with his middos.

“I’m twenty-eight and I’ve been dating for six years,” he continued. “I have plenty of dates, and most of the girls are quality people. I’m very grateful for that.

“But it’s really strange. I have this weird, um, pattern. I’ll go out with a wonderful girl. We’ll date three, four, five, even eight times. I really like her, it seems that she likes me, I’m thinking this might be ‘it.’” A sharp intake of breath.

I waited patiently.

“And then… then she breaks up with me. She tells me that she admires and respects me. She says I’m everything she’s looking for… but she just can’t marry me.

“Mrs. Burnham, you have no idea. It’s like there’s this script they all pass around — they all say the same thing. This just keeps happening to me. I have no idea what I’m doing wrong.”