If you are married to a person who has (or might have) ADHD, you might feel ignored and lonely in your relationship

One Sunday afternoon early on in our marriage I noticed my husband seemed glum. We’d gone to the local park and were sitting on the wooden bench together watching our toddlers climb up the ladders and slide down the slides.

But instead of talking, he was swirling his foot in the sand. “Look, Asher’s finally learned to climb the ladder by himself,” I tried.

My husband looked up at our two-year-old at the top of the ladder, smiled briefly, and looked down again.

“Do you think this park is more child-friendly, or the one on Seymour Grove?”

“Both are nice.”

It felt like an awkward first date.

Then my husband’s phone rang, for the fifth time that day, and I couldn’t hold back an irritated, “Why are you getting so many work phone calls on a Sunday?”

“I’m not. They’re from my siblings. To wish me happy birthday.”

I felt dizzy.

It was my husband’s 28th birthday. How could I have forgotten?