“And how does that make you feel?” If you’ve ever been in therapy there were probably times you wanted to turn that ubiquitous (often annoying) seven-word question on the therapist asking all the questions. Listening to patients talk about their struggles doubtlessly affects her perspective — and her personal life. What is she really thinking behind her gentle nod and questioning gaze?

A Day in the Life Sitting in the therapist chair is a privilege according toMelissaGroman LCSW who practices in Nutley (near Passaic) New Jersey. “I am helping someone tell his story and find new ways to move forward in life. My work is often spiritual practical painful and joyful all at once.” Because therapists are well in therapy every day they have a unique understanding of the weight of their role.YochevedSampson LCSW who also works in Nutley elaborates: “I feel honored that my clients entrust me with their inner world. I also feel responsible to ensure that they feel safe and respected and that I am providing a therapeutic experience that is different from interacting with a friend.  “I see myself as a mirror for my clients ” Yocheved continues “reflecting back to them what they are saying what they already understand what isn’t working. My job is to offer empathy objectivity and insight to ask questions that help them think about something differently or more in-depth and often to give them a ‘new’ interpersonal experience.”

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