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s we mourn the Beis Hamikdash destroyed because of sinas chinam it is appropriate to consider the opposite of that grave sin the mitzvah of v’ahavta l’reiacha kamocha which Rabi Akiva describes as the “great principle of the Torah.” Why is this mitzvah of such unique importance?

The Alshich writes that when Jews are united in this world there is unity in the Upper Realms. That unity reflecting Hashem’s essence is the goal of Creation. The unity of the Jewish People was the condition for the revelation at Sinai of Torah the blueprint for Creation.

The basis for Jewish unity is the existence of a collective Jewish soul. Love of our fellow Jews grows from recognition of our roots in that common collective soul. Thus Rav Boruch Ber Leibowitz considered his entry ticket to Gan Eden to be that “I loved every single Jew” observant or nonobservant.

Ahavas Yisrael minimally requires that we worry about the wellbeing of every single Jew. The many tefillos added wheneverIsraelis at war are one manifestation. Beyond that we are required to do everything we can to ensure the physical wellbeing and security of our fellow Jews. The vast and varied number of chareidi chesed organizations especially in the health field attest to that commitment.

But what about ongoing relationships with Jews who are not mitzvah observant? Will they have an adverse impact on us or our homes? Would a real friendship be perceived as our condonation of a life not guided by Torah and turn mitzvah observance into nothing more than a lifestyle choice? Will we become desensitized to what is at stake when a Jew does not fulfill Hashem’s Will?

Such questions are becoming more common as observant Jews find themselves thrust to an ever-greater degree into ongoing relationships with nonreligious Jews particularly in the workplace. Is the best course to treat one’s coworkers pleasantly and with respect but to avoid any real friendship? Or is even friendship — obviously with coworkers of the same gender — a desideratum to be pursued?

These are not easy questions. Nor I suspect will there be one answer for each religious Jew or in every situation. We have to be careful never to convey approval or even indifference to our fellow Jews’ failure to observe Torah. And we have to work against desensitization just like Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach who would say to himself “Shabbos ” whenever he saw a Jew driving on Shabbos.

In the context of learning Torah with nonobservant Jews the gedolei Yisrael have been highly supportive even where the nonobservant Jew expresses no desire to become religious. The power of Torah is such that it will always have an impact.

And I know personally that the gedolim have permitted ongoing open discussions between veteran journalists across the religious divide and that such meetings have led to real changes in the way that our community is portrayed in the media.

But what about meetings that don’t involve Torah texts and where the goal is simply to break down stereotypes about Jews whose lives center around Hashem’s commandments (as well as stereotypes about those described as chiloni) or just to lower levels of animosity between different groups in Israeli society? The filmmaking group of religious and nonreligious women described recently by Leah Gebber in these pages (“Turning Tides: Wide-Angle View” Issue 501) would be an example. Are reduced tensions and breaking stereotypes independent values apart from kiruv?