Another first date. This time you can choose what happens next

It’s 5:52. You didn’t include the 20-minutes traffic in your down-to-the-minute plan, but you’ll still have enough time to prepare quickly. You already know what you’re wearing tonight — the same thing you’ve worn to every other first date this season.

By the time you dash through the door and up the stairs, you only have four minutes left for dinner. Your mom follows you up to your room with a piece of schnitzel in a paper towel.

She kindly doesn’t say, “I told you so,” even though she clearly doubted you when you reassured her this morning that no, you didn’t need to leave work early. But even the breathless rushing can’t overpower the soft voice that pipes up before every date. Maybe this time… maybe it’s him.

By 6:45, your hair is softly curled and you’re clacking over to the mirror to touch up your lipstick. You’re ready with a full 15 minutes to spare. (Heard that, mom?) You even have a couple minutes for some Tehillim and a few “have me in mind” texts — and to find your ever-trusty dating clutch.

You dig for it under a pile of shoes. You search under your sweaters. Nothing.

What now? You smush a $50 bill into your shoe and slip it back on. Just in time for the knock at the door.

Five minutes later, the date officially commences with his, “So, how does Sun & Sea Hotel sound?” and your “Sure, sounds great.”

But as you leave your neighborhood and the awkward small talk picks up speed, so does the rented blue Camry. It’s getting a little hard to focus on the conversation, because you’re too distracted by the speedometer.

And by how uncomfortably close you’re getting to that red car.

And by the third turn in a row that was executed with a tad too much gas.

You distinctly recall one of the rules in the Unwritten Handbook of Shidduch Dating (passed verbally from friend to friend): Never EVER comment on the way your date is driving (at least not until he proposes).

But you’re starting to feel a bit queasy and, besides, you want to come home in one piece.

Do you follow the rules and stay silent (2) or go with the psak of Chayecha kodmin and comment on his driving (3)?