I don't mind talking about my parents, but it doesn’t mean I’m an entertainment center if you’re curious or bored

Simchahs can be super special challenges. Yeah, we know it’s very “interesting” to see both families coming together, but please be understanding and don’t come to any part of a simchah unless you’re a hundred percent sure I want you there, and I’ll be happy you came! (When in doubt, maybe err on the side of caution, and wish me mazel tov the next day…). If you do come, please don’t go running to the mechitzah to stare at my father, and certainly don’t ask me to show and explain exactly who’s who in the family. It’s really uncomfortable when people start looking to see who looks sad or happy or awkward. You’d be surprised — even adults do this.

I don’t mind talking about my parents, but it doesn’t mean I’m an entertainment center if you’re curious or bored. Please understand that you’ve got to be close to me to ask personal questions! Imagine if we’re all sitting around schmoozing, and I asked you if your parents have a lot of disagreements — would you think that was appropriate? For some reason we become an address for questions, comments, and even other people’s divorce stories. Or, the opposite might happen: Someone will say the “D” word and then suddenly get all weirded out ’cuz I’m sitting there, and the other girls will give her nasty looks and kicks. You’re allowed to say the word divorce in front of me!