I’m having a really hard time forgiving her, and I’m too embarrassed to talk to her about the conversation I overheard

Miriam’s Take

HI, my name is Miriam. I’m 13 years old and in seventh grade. I’ve always gotten along really well with my friend Golda, but something awful happened this year, and I don’t know how to fix it. I was wondering if you could help me.

For the past two years, Golda and I have been really good friends. We’re not best friends, but I would say we’re close. We’re comfortable and open with each other. We can talk about anything. Or so I thought. Lately, Golda seems to not even want to give me the time of day. When I ask her what’s wrong, if I’ve done something to offend her, she just shrugs and turns away without any explanation. It’s been getting me really down, and I don’t understand why she’s doing it.

I asked Malky, another friend of ours, if she knows why Golda’s giving me the cold shoulder, but she didn’t seem to have a clue. I asked a couple of more girls, and they all had the same reaction. I wish Golda would just be open and say what’s wrong so I don’t have to wonder and obsess over why she’s being so unfriendly to me.

There’s only one thing I can think of that might have made Golda really upset with me, but it isn’t my fault. We both tried out for the lead in the school play, but I got the part, which I’m really psyched about. Golda seemed happy for me at the time. She was smiling and saying that if she wasn’t playing the lead, she was glad I was. I thought that was really sweet of her. But since around that time, I’ve noticed she hasn’t been acting the same.

Should I talk to her about it? I don’t want to bring it up and assume that’s the reason she’s upset with me, because let’s say it isn’t, and then I accuse her of being sore at the fact that I’m playing the lead and she’s not? It’ll just be really awkward. But then again, I do think that may be the reason she’s stopped being my friend. What do you think? Should I talk to her or should I not?