The wedding had been lovely the week of sheva brachos blissful and the month of really getting to know each other was a pleasant sort of challenge. Then came the life changer for Malka and Binyamin. They got jarring news: Malka’s parents were getting divorced. “I hadn’t seen it coming ” Malka the youngest of eight siblings says. “Only after being married several years was I able to look back at my childhood and teenage years and realize my parents’ marriage had been heading toward a divorce all the while. “My parents were very involved in the lives of their children and grandchildren making bar mitzvahs marrying off children and I didn’t realize that something important was lacking in their relationship. It was sort of overshadowed by the vibrancy and busyness of life around them.” Once the children were all married there was no longer anything keeping them together and Malka’s parents chose to go their separate ways. “My first concern was about how my new husband and in-laws would take it. Then as the divorce progressed I realized how complicated it was for me on an emotional level.”