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In some families children have specific chores each day. In others, a housekeeper keeps things running smoothly. Within families, some siblings may be the predominant helpers while others barely pitch in at all. Many mothers employ charts with stars and rewards; others eschew prizes but favor consequences. But one thing’s certain: teaching children responsibility at home can be a wildly successful experience, or an absolute disaster. What are the factors that predict which way the pendulum swings?
“As the day went on, I’d feel drunk and dizzy. My head would go down on the desk and I’d be out. Then I started to fall asleep at the wheel. And in the middle of the night I’d wake up sweating, gasping, trying to breathe, and then fall back asleep. I thought I was just overtired from overwork. It wasn’t until my husband began to wake me up at night, scared, telling me ‘You’re not breathing!’ that I realized there was a real problem” – sleep apnea sufferer
Uddie is my friend. I met her the first day I was sent to sell our dishes on the black market. She showed me the best places to sneak through the fence. Pela is my friend too. The second time Mammu sent me to sell something, I met Uddie at the corner. With her was a smaller girl, with one long dark braid. She kept twisting it with her fingers, half hiding behind Uddie. “This is Pela,” Uddie said quietly. That was it. We don’t talk when we are going to the marketplace.
Toys and games constitute an important and enjoyable part of Shabbos for many children…and many adults, as well! Which are permitted, and which are prohibited or discouraged?