Join The Conversation With Mishpacha's Weekly Newsletter



Raising Respectful Children

Sarah Chana Radcliffe

All of us dream of having polite, respectful children who will speak softly and nicely even when provoked. But we prefer to forget that children tend to imitate the behavior of the role models around them. If we want respectful children, we need to master the art of respectful communication ourselves.

Wednesday, November 03, 2010

Each and every human being is made “b’tzelem Elokim” — in the image of G-d — and should be treated accordingly. We all believe this, and try to do so. And it’s fairly easy — as long as everything goes our way. But when negative emotions hit, when we’re struggling with frustration, rage, panic or hurt, our good intentions falters and it becomes far harder to properly fulfill our interpersonal obligations.

Unfortunately, these emotions are triggered constantly in family life over issues big and small. Here’s a small sampling of family situations that can provoke shades of frustration in various family members: 

  • Dinner isn’t to a child’s liking (frustration, disappointment)
  • Someone got a bigger piece of cake (frustration, jealousy, upset)
  • A child refuses to cooperate (frustration, helplessness)
  • Yet again, a sibling has borrowed clothing without permission (frustration, rage)
  • A child carelessly destroys a valued keepsake (frustration, sadness)
  • A teen is out late and hasn’t called as promised (frustration, fear, panic) 

 

To read the rest of this story, please buy this issue of Mishpacha or sign up for a weekly subscription.

Share this page with a friend. Fill in the information below, and we'll email your friend a link to this page on your behalf.

Your name
Your email address
You friend's name
Your friend's email address
Please type the characters you see in the image into the box provided.
CAPTCHA
Message


MM217
 
What’s in a Name?
Shoshana Friedman “What does Writer X have to say this week?”
Atonement — Fake and Real
Yonoson Rosenblum White confessionals and faux rituals
Four Walls Coming Full Circle
Eytan Kobre All the while, there’s been a relationship in the offing...
And Yet We Smile
Yisroel Besser We are the nation that toils to be happy at all costs
Out of This World
Rabbi Henoch Plotnick Dirshu Hashem b’himatzo — we are in Hashem’s company now...
Steven and Jonathan Litton
Rachel Bachrach The co-owners of Litton Sukkah, based in Lawrence, NY
Tali Messing
Moe Mernick Tali Messing, engineering manager at Facebook Tel Aviv
Sick Note
Jacob L. Freedman “Of course, Dr. Freedman. Machul, machul, machul”
Avoiding Health Columns Can Be Good for You
Rabbi Emanuel Feldman Only one reliable guide for good health: our Torah
Endnote: Side Notes
Riki Goldstein Most Jewish music industry entertainers have side profes...
Me, Myself, and Why
Faigy Peritzman Where there’s no heart and no love, there’s no point
Can’t Do It Without You
Sarah Chana Radcliffe When you step up to the plate, you build your home team
Eternal Joy
Mrs. Elana Moskowitz The joy of Succos is the fruit of spiritual victory
The Appraiser: Part III
D. Himy, M.S. CCC-SLP and Zivia Reischer Make sure your child knows his strengths
Hidden Special Needs
Rena Shechter You won’t see his special needs, but don’t deny them
Dear Wealthy Friend
Anonymous There’s no need for guilt. I am truly happy for you